“Forgiving and being reconciled to our enemies or our loved ones is not about pretending that things are other than they are. It is not about patting one another on the back and turning a blind eye to the wrong. True reconciliation exposes the awfulness, the abuse, the hurt, the truth. It could even sometimes make things worse. It is a risky undertaking but in the end it is worthwhile, because in the end only an honest confrontation with reality can bring real healing. Superficial reconciliation can bring only superficial healing.”
~ Desmond Tutu
Deep wounds need to heal from the inside out, my friend. They have to be opened up and exposed. Only then can they truly heal.
Honesty, vulnerability, exposing the truth, or disappointing others may be humiliating, emotional experiences, but it’s these very moments that set us free. Think long term, my friend, and know you’ll be clearing the path for a healthier and happier future.